Côtoyer Conjugation: All Tenses of the French Verb “côtoyer”

Côtoyer means to be alongside someone or something on a regular basis: the people you work near, the worlds you move through. It is a -yer verb, so the y turns into an i whenever the ending after it is silent.

At a glance
Infinitivecôtoyer
Englishto rub shoulders with, to be alongside
Verb group1st group (-er), with a stem spelling change
Auxiliaryavoir
Past participlecôtoyé
Present participlecôtoyant

Conjugation tables

Indicatif

Présent (Present)
jecôtoieI rub shoulders with
tucôtoiesyou rub shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoiehe/she rubs shoulders with
nouscôtoyonswe rub shoulders with
vouscôtoyezyou rub shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoientthey rub shoulders with
Imparfait (Imperfect)
jecôtoyaisI used to rub shoulders with
tucôtoyaisyou used to rub shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoyaithe/she used to rub shoulders with
nouscôtoyionswe used to rub shoulders with
vouscôtoyiezyou used to rub shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoyaientthey used to rub shoulders with
Passé composé (Perfect)
j'ai côtoyéI have rubbed shoulders with
tuas côtoyéyou have rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/ona côtoyéhe/she has rubbed shoulders with
nousavons côtoyéwe have rubbed shoulders with
vousavez côtoyéyou have rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellesont côtoyéthey have rubbed shoulders with
Futur simple (Simple future)
jecôtoieraiI will rub shoulders with
tucôtoierasyou will rub shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoierahe/she will rub shoulders with
nouscôtoieronswe will rub shoulders with
vouscôtoierezyou will rub shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoierontthey will rub shoulders with
Plus-que-parfait (Pluperfect)
j'avais côtoyéI had rubbed shoulders with
tuavais côtoyéyou had rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/onavait côtoyéhe/she had rubbed shoulders with
nousavions côtoyéwe had rubbed shoulders with
vousaviez côtoyéyou had rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellesavaient côtoyéthey had rubbed shoulders with
Futur antérieur (Future perfect)
j'aurai côtoyéI will have rubbed shoulders with
tuauras côtoyéyou will have rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/onaura côtoyéhe/she will have rubbed shoulders with
nousaurons côtoyéwe will have rubbed shoulders with
vousaurez côtoyéyou will have rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellesauront côtoyéthey will have rubbed shoulders with

Subjonctif

Subjonctif présent (Subjunctive)
jecôtoie(that) I rub shoulders with
tucôtoies(that) you rub shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoie(that) he/she rub shoulders with
nouscôtoyions(that) we rub shoulders with
vouscôtoyiez(that) you rub shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoient(that) they rub shoulders with
Subjonctif passé (Past subjunctive)
j'aie côtoyé(that) I have rubbed shoulders with
tuaies côtoyé(that) you have rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/onait côtoyé(that) he/she has rubbed shoulders with
nousayons côtoyé(that) we have rubbed shoulders with
vousayez côtoyé(that) you have rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellesaient côtoyé(that) they have rubbed shoulders with

Conditionnel

Conditionnel présent (Conditional)
jecôtoieraisI would rub shoulders with
tucôtoieraisyou would rub shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoieraithe/she would rub shoulders with
nouscôtoierionswe would rub shoulders with
vouscôtoieriezyou would rub shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoieraientthey would rub shoulders with
Conditionnel passé (Past conditional)
j'aurais côtoyéI would have rubbed shoulders with
tuaurais côtoyéyou would have rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/onaurait côtoyéhe/she would have rubbed shoulders with
nousaurions côtoyéwe would have rubbed shoulders with
vousauriez côtoyéyou would have rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellesauraient côtoyéthey would have rubbed shoulders with

Impératif

Impératif présent (Imperative)
(tu)côtoierub shoulders with
(nous)côtoyonslet's rub shoulders with
(vous)côtoyezrub shoulders with

Formes impersonnelles

Infinitives and participles
Infinitifcôtoyerto rub shoulders with
Participe présentcôtoyantrubing shoulders with
Participe passécôtoyérubbed shoulders with
Infinitif passéavoir côtoyéto have rubbed shoulders with
Participe passé composéayant côtoyéhaving rubbed shoulders with

Literary tenses

Passé simple (Simple past)
jecôtoyaiI rubbed shoulders with
tucôtoyasyou rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoyahe/she rubbed shoulders with
nouscôtoyâmeswe rubbed shoulders with
vouscôtoyâtesyou rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoyèrentthey rubbed shoulders with
Passé antérieur (Past anterior)
j'eus côtoyéI had rubbed shoulders with
tueus côtoyéyou had rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/oneut côtoyéhe/she had rubbed shoulders with
nouseûmes côtoyéwe had rubbed shoulders with
vouseûtes côtoyéyou had rubbed shoulders with
ils/elleseurent côtoyéthey had rubbed shoulders with
Subjonctif imparfait (Imperfect subjunctive)
jecôtoyasse(that) I rubbed shoulders with
tucôtoyasses(that) you rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/oncôtoyât(that) he/she rubbed shoulders with
nouscôtoyassions(that) we rubbed shoulders with
vouscôtoyassiez(that) you rubbed shoulders with
ils/ellescôtoyassent(that) they rubbed shoulders with
Subjonctif plus-que-parfait (Pluperfect subjunctive)
j'eusse côtoyé(that) I had rubbed shoulders with
tueusses côtoyé(that) you had rubbed shoulders with
il/elle/oneût côtoyé(that) he/she had rubbed shoulders with
nouseussions côtoyé(that) we had rubbed shoulders with
vouseussiez côtoyé(that) you had rubbed shoulders with
ils/elleseussent côtoyé(that) they had rubbed shoulders with

How Côtoyer behaves

Côtoyer comes from côte, a side or a coast, and it started out meaning to travel along the edge of something. That literal sense survives (une route qui côtoie la rivière), but you will meet it far more often about people: côtoyer des artistes, côtoyer des collègues de tous les horizons. It belongs to careful writing and to job interviews rather than to casual chat, which makes it a useful word to recognise even before you produce it. The pattern it follows is shared by nettoyer, employer and envoyer, so the spelling rule is worth getting right once.

Everything depends on whether the ending after the stem is pronounced. When it is silent, the y becomes i: je côtoie, tu côtoies, il côtoie, ils côtoient. When the ending is pronounced, the y stays: nous côtoyons, vous côtoyez, and the whole imparfait, je côtoyais. The future and conditional are the trap, because they keep the i all the way through even though the endings are pronounced: je côtoierai, je côtoierais. Two forms end up with an odd-looking yi sequence you should not simplify: nous côtoyions and vous côtoyiez, in the imparfait and in the subjunctive. The circumflex on the o never moves, and the past participle is côtoyé.

Côtoyer in context

Présent
Dans ce métier, on côtoie des gens de tous les milieux.
In this line of work, you come into contact with people from every background.
Imparfait
Étudiante, elle côtoyait des chercheurs venus du monde entier.
As a student, she was surrounded by researchers from all over the world.
Passé composé
Nous avons côtoyé les mêmes équipes pendant dix ans.
We worked alongside the same teams for ten years.
Futur simple
Tu côtoieras beaucoup de francophones dans cette école.
You'll be around a lot of French speakers at that school.
Subjonctif présent
Il faut que je côtoie davantage de locuteurs natifs pour progresser.
I need to spend more time around native speakers if I want to improve.

Common mistakes with côtoyer

Keeping the y before a silent ending

✗ Je côtoye des architectes toute la journée.

✓ Je côtoie des architectes toute la journée. — I'm around architects all day.

A -yer verb swaps y for i whenever the ending that follows is not pronounced, which covers je, tu, il and ils in the present. Côtoye is never a form; the same rule gives j'emploie and je nettoie.

Writing the future with a y

✗ Tu côtoyeras des professionnels du secteur.

✓ Tu côtoieras des professionnels du secteur. — You'll be working alongside people from the industry.

The future and conditional of -oyer and -uyer verbs are built on the i stem, not the infinitive: je côtoierai, je côtoierais. The i survives even though the ending is pronounced, which is the one place the silent-ending rule does not explain the spelling.

Losing the circumflex on the o

✗ Nous cotoyons les mêmes personnes depuis des années.

✓ Nous côtoyons les mêmes personnes depuis des années. — We've been around the same people for years.

The accent is part of the stem because the verb is built on côte. It stays in every form, including côtoyé and côtoierai. Cotoyer without the accent is simply a misspelling, not a variant.

Expressions with côtoyer

côtoyer le ridicule
to border on the absurd
côtoyer la mort
to have close brushes with death
côtoyer du beau monde
to mix with important people

Frequently asked questions

Is côtoyer a regular verb?
No. Its endings are the ordinary -er endings, so it is a first-group verb. What moves is the stem, which alternates between côtoi- and côtoy-, and some tables file it with the irregulars for that reason. Once you know that the y becomes i before a silent ending, and that the future keeps the i throughout, the whole table is predictable.
What is the past participle of côtoyer?
Côtoyé, with the y intact, giving j'ai côtoyé. The verb takes avoir, and the participle agrees when a direct object comes first: les milieux qu'elle a côtoyés. The i spelling never appears in the participle.
Why does the y change to i in je côtoie?
Because the ending -e is silent. French avoids leaving a y in front of a mute ending, so the stem becomes côtoi-. You hear the difference too: nous côtoyons has a y-glide between the vowels, while je côtoie ends on the vowel.
What is the difference between côtoyer and fréquenter?
Fréquenter means you deliberately spend time with someone or somewhere: elle fréquente ce café. Côtoyer is more passive and often circumstantial, describing people you find yourself alongside because of your work or your life. You can côtoyer colleagues you never actually talk to.
How do you pronounce côtoyer?
Three syllables, roughly koh-twah-YAY: the oy spelling gives the sound of oi followed by a y-glide. In je côtoie the glide falls away and you are left with koh-TWAH. Ils côtoient sounds exactly like je côtoie, since the -ent ending is silent.